So You Want to Coach Someone?

By : September 30, 2009

I’m often told by others that they want to coach others. So I ask them why they want to coach? I do this because the coach has a great responsibility to the people they are coaching. Since coaching is all about assisting another person to improve their performance or to fine tune their abilities or to learn how to be better at their chosen profession, it is very important the coach is totally aware of their commitment to coaching.

There are five key questions a potential coach must answer to test your readiness. Here are the five questions…

  1. Do you have a genuine regard for and interest in others?
  2. Do you have a high level of self-regard?
  3. Are you open to suspending your own judgments and assumptions and keeping your own agenda out of a coaching conversation?
  4. Do you regularly listen to your own feelings and check how they affect your behavior?
  5. Are you open to learning the necessary skills and committing to ongoing learning and development to broaden your view of the world?

These questions must be answered in the affirmative if you really want to be successful as a coach. Let me quickly review each of the questions:

  1. Since coaching is ALL about helping someone else, how do you feel about others? If you feel that others have potential and just need some assistance from a knowledgeable coach – well you could be the one to make a difference.
  2. Self-regard and self-esteem are basically related, so do you really like yourself? Do you feel worthy and valuable yourself? You will need this personal power to stand the riggers of developing others over the long haul.
  3. This one is the toughest question for most people. Keeping your agenda and assumptions out of the coaching environment is important to your success as a coach. Judgment is another barrier to successful coaching. The reason judgment gets in the way is due to the habit of people to pigeon hole an individual due to a personal judgment or using a filter system that actually looks for traits and answers that fit the judgment rather than the open truth.
  4. As a coach you will be challenged occasionally by a strong-willed individual, so how you feel about others and yourself are critical to being open and totally involved in the other person’s success.
  5. Now, the real coaching advantage comes from your personal continuous learning. It is  the pathway to your coaching success. There is no substitute continuous learning. It is the method to becoming knowledgeable on any topic, and the more you learn, the more you understand – the main ingredient to wisdom. If you don’t like to learn – then don’t coach – it’s as simple as that.

How did you do on the five questions? Are you ready to start coaching? Good for you. Coaches make a difference and if you got good answers to the five questions then you are ready.

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Voss Graham

Sr Business Advisor / CEO at InnerActive Consulting Group Inc
Your Knowledgeable Partner for Business Success and Achievement. Dedicated to helping others get to their next level of success. Award winning business advisor; coach to executives and business owners; Business Growth Strategist; and experienced using assessments for hiring & selection, evaluation of teams and improving communication. Voss is available as a Speaker for your conferences or company meetings contact him at 901-757-4434 or use the LinkedIn or Facebook direct messages.

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